Tormenting Polarities

We are constantly fighting a mental war deep inside our minds, a war between the complete and the incomplete picture. I am sure we all have read or heard numerous expressions which state that living a meaningful life means living in the moment, enjoying what you have today or have been blessed with and stop wondering about what it could have been had certain things worked out differently. We know how true that is and how it makes complete sense in a perfect world! But the point is we don't live in a perfect world, we are not ideal humans....atleast not the most of us!

There is a constant desire in all of us to imagine how things would be if a few ideal events occurred and you get what you always wanted badly. Wouldn't it make your life beautiful? Winning the lottery you bought......getting a ‘yes’ from your dream girl whom you proposed to or simply your wish to visit that fancy restaurant more often! It puts you in a constant state of gazing as to how exquisite everything would seem after that......but only if it had happened. Following are a few suggestions for people who are in a similar state of disarray between these polar ends and are looking for some feeder thoughts, mind you this is not a guiding light but only some words put together that make sense to me after going through similar instances and introspecting on them carefully-

1. It is not, and I repeat NOT, a sin to think of how things would be in an ideal scenario
2. Why?...well first of all because you can!!!
3. Secondly, dreams and hopes are quintessential drivers that feed our imagination and creativity. So choose wisely!
4. Thirdly, without those dreams of perfect worlds and with your imbibed sense of full contention, you will most certainly lose the drive to move ahead in life
5. In order to be progressive you need goals, and these ideal/perfect dreams give you goals to meet and efforts to dispense
6. But…..remember that getting carried away and becoming overtly obsessive are the common side effects of doing the same
7. You have to be cautious that greed and impatience don’t overcome you. The first when things start getting a bit too easy for you to achieve and the second when it starts getting harder every day to bring the pieces together into a single frame

At the end of it all, mistakes are always expected …… but if you don’t try, would it be worth calling yourself human? Life is all about trying and failing….that’s where the fun is…….once you succeed there’s no fun for that goal’s been achieved and the objective stricken off….there’s nothing more to keep you challenged. Hence, its time to move on and dig a new hole to fill……